Ratanjeet Kaur of TV show Veera has kept a low profile ever since her second marriage ended in a very short span of 8 months. However, she decided to get frank with SpotboyE.com. Excerpts from the conversation that followed:
There have been reports that your second marriage (to Anurag Solanki, interior designer) is also over. You didn't speak about it then. If it is true, can you do so now?
However, there have been no legal proceedings from either side, which implies that we have not filed for divorce yet. But yes, the divorce will be happen soon.
You faced domestic violence in your first marriage...
Did you retailiate?
I did, but I was quite timid. I didn't have enough power to rule over my head and heart. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know how to face the onslaught and get away from it. I was in pain for a very long time. I needed someone to get me out of it.
And then?
And then?
My parents and one of my close friends came together to help me overcome the trauma.
I feel very strongly for women who are victims of wife-beating and cannot come out of this.
My weak point has been that I have never been vocal about this which I think I should have been, but anyway today I am finally talking.
You are right that you should have been vocal. People here are judgmental in thinking that if a girl has had two failed marriages, there's something wrong with her...
I feel very strongly for women who are victims of wife-beating and cannot come out of this.
My weak point has been that I have never been vocal about this which I think I should have been, but anyway today I am finally talking.
You are right that you should have been vocal. People here are judgmental in thinking that if a girl has had two failed marriages, there's something wrong with her...
Yeah, I know what you mean. But thanks again to my understanding parents who stood by me thick and thin while I kicked my first shaadi.
Was your second marriage also hit by domestic violence?
Was your second marriage also hit by domestic violence?
No, not this time. But I don't have the consent of the other person to talk on this. So... (trails off).
Was he not loyal to you? Did he get attracted to someone else?
Was he not loyal to you? Did he get attracted to someone else?
Nothing like that. But yes it didn't work out, and it didn't work out at all. I realised that I couldn't spend the rest of my life with him.
I have evolved as a woman. I stand for myself and my thoughts. Today, I am a strong personality. Men find it difficult to handle a woman who has a strong personality.
Indian men?
Indian men?
I wouldn't say just Indian men, but by and large, men are like that.
I am glad that you have emerged as a strong woman...
I am glad that you have emerged as a strong woman...
I wouldn't like to go through whatever happened in my personal life all over again. Not anymore for sure. Today, my own happiness comes first to me. I got married for the second time to seek happiness for myself and not for the society, neither for my family nor for the public.
I wasn't happy and I rightly decided to be single. No woman should bow down to societal pressures. Let's stop thinking all the time that 'Log Kya Kahenge?'
Did your second husband want to confine you? He didn't want you to work in showbiz...
I wasn't happy and I rightly decided to be single. No woman should bow down to societal pressures. Let's stop thinking all the time that 'Log Kya Kahenge?'
Did your second husband want to confine you? He didn't want you to work in showbiz...
(Interrupts) Nothing like that.
Was the parting in your second marriage amicable or did you storm out?
Was the parting in your second marriage amicable or did you storm out?
Sorry, I can't give you those details.
Are you open to love and marriage again?
Are you open to love and marriage again?
No love, no marriage. I am not open to anything now.
You are closing the doors on men...
You are closing the doors on men...
(Laughs) Please don't quote me like that. Else people would think that I am turning into a lesbian and going to start loving women now.
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